there are two categories of the same type of people i have come to generate. perhaps i shall take this time to inform these selected some people. some will nod and agree with what i say, some will smile and say, "that's like me.", and others will degrade me for writing such a thing. whatever. if you get offended easily, you might as well not read this post.
so, the categories: 1) people who question peoples' lives, and 2) people who pry peoples' lives. so let's talk.
the inquirer is a somewhat reserved paparazzi. they do not persist on knowing something about someone if the questioned person objects. they are, however, there to help in some way. they will put in their input and aid them through. from here, there are more categories that i dare not touch (for the sake of time), but i will simply put it as: 1) one to keep the inquired life confidential, and 2) one who spreads it to anyone, anywhere. the latter is another problem, because their intentions aren't necessary to publicize one's life problems... they just want more input. asking questions isn't a bad thing. that's how we know half the things we know today. but as i said-- freedom of speech isn't necessarily the same as freedom of press. some things should be kept out of others' ears.
then you have the prying mind. these people are dangerous. they will begin their plan by (yes, a plan. these people have the very intention to steal your secrets.) the same course as the inquirer. they, however, will nag at you a bit more than the previously mentioned. and when you don't tell them, they are either: 1) offended that they cannot be trusted (but it's true--they cannot be), or 2) go to extreme measures to find out. they will start asking other people about you, trying to get any information (true or false) about you. this is where it goes wrong, because truth intermingles with pitiful lies. notice that in the previous sentence, there is only one truth, but its antonym comes in a bunch (plural). these people breed lies, and the public then, does not know what to believe. sadly, these people keep going at their game. and when someone asks them about you, they give input that has been blended in so many times that, by then, it's far from the truth. from there, the confused spread the word.
what i look down upon is that these people have no idea that they are doing something wrong. so they continue their mission. no one in this world has not been talked about. your friends say nice things about you while you are absent, your enemies are bound to spread any bad trait you may have. while some people have that gutsy "i don't care what other people think" outlook, it may not be the best way to go (sorry to those who believed that that would get you somewhere). this makes you most vulnerable to society. everyone interacts with people, and as long as humans continue doing that, you absolutely have to care about others' opinions. this is part of building character. you have to be wary of situations and people at all times.
sadly, people follow the road frequently traveled. "if one person believes in something about someone, then i should, too." "since this is what the majority is doing, i should oblige and do the same." since when is building character being a chameleon of someone else? it's not a surprise how we humans resorted to abomination. shame on the people who can't even think for themselves.
and to those that fit one of my two categories up there, you best know who you are. if you can't even tell that you're doing something that despicable, then i don't even want to know what you will become, as these symptoms escalate into something more dangerous.
always remember that for every horrible thing you say, there's a counterattack right back at you. and for every true information you squeeze out of someone, there are ten lies that tag along.
maybe the only trustworthy person is yourself.
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